The Obama effect

Barrack Obama

Ever wonder what it’s like being an living American in the UK? After nearly 20 years, I’ve seen it all. I’ve been loved and I’ve been hated. For the time being, I’m pleasantly enjoying the “Obama Effect,” which is a bit like giving a local pub another go after they have advertised they are under new management.

As a little reminder, here’s a post I wrote the day after Barrack Obama was elected in 2008. It includes the original comments:

The UK you say, they’re America’s best ally. They LOVE us over there.

Er, no, sorry to burst your bubble. They actually don’t.

It’s very hard to try to explain what it is like to be an American living in the UK.

It’s used to be an asset, especially being an American woman. But festering in the depths of the British psyche is a special love/hate relationship with Americans. It goes something like this: yes, we admire the American entrepreneurial spirit, but they are loud, arrogant sons of bitches and never take responsibility. AND they only entered the war when they had too (we’re talking WW2 here).

I’d say it was just after the initial sympathy of September 11th waned, when all the pent up hostilities started to really come out.

I was in charge of marketing for Northern Europe for a large software company. I had counterparts in Central Europe (a German) and Southern Europe (a French man). I worked with a great bunch of women, and they would always say I wasn’t like the Americans in the home office, the ones that had no idea about “how things worked here” and would “thrust their policies on us” with their gung ho slightly arrogant “I can fix this” spirit without investing the time to find out the real issues.

I remember the day the US bombed Iraq – “shock and awe”. I was on a conference call with my counterparts, we were discussing a big user conference, and that attendance might suffer because of the war. It was a short conversation.

Then came the report there really were no weapons of mass destruction.

Suddenly being an American here was not an asset. It was a liability. As the lone American in the office, I was blamed for everything President Bush did.

‘Do you know what your president just did?” It didn’t matter I didn’t vote for him. Everytime I open my mouth, I might as well have been dropping bombs.

A few Americans understood how badly our reputation was tarnished abroad. When we returned to the UK, my husband had his leaving do at his San Diego software company – they jokingly gave him a Bush T-shirt for each of our girls and said that on the first day of school we should roll up in a Hummer with the girls in their “I love Bush” shirts. Yes, it was funny, but no, I didn’t bring the shirts with us in fear they might accidentally be worn.

An American friend of mine told me about her school ride share. She overheard one of the boys tell her son “Your mummy is stupid. My daddy says all Americans are stupid.”

A friend from school who is also on my Facebook accidentally sent me the “Americans are NOT stupid” video that has nearly 18 million views on You Tube.

When I offered to do a voice over for a podcast at work, my boss politely declined because I had the “wrong” accent.

I was greeted at the school gate on Wednesday with lots of “well dones” on your new president.

Read some of the posts of my British mummy blogging friends (All things are possible, Obama and the singing bear) and you get the feeling the UK thinks there is hope for America.

Short lived? Probably. But imagine my life if a hockey mom had made it to VP.

Photo credit: paul henri

17 COMMENTS

  1. babieswhobrunch | 29th Oct 10

    Reading this plus all the mid-term stuff makes me OH SO nostalgic for two years ago. And reminded me about this blog post http://babieswhobrunch.blogspot.com/2008/11/new-dawn.html
    Seems like a long time ago, both in Louis and Obama years….. That said, if you’re feeling down then read this. It cheered me up. http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/yes-we-can-obama-said-but-can-he-2119585.html

  2. Helen | 29th Oct 10

    I don’t know, because I wasn’t there when the comments you are referring to were made, but I’m guessing that many of these comments are down to the famous British sense of humour. The Brits take the mickey out of everyone and everything and they expect everyone to be pretty thick-skinned about it.
    Almost everything they say has a tongue in cheek element to it, and to be the focus of this humour is considered a compliment. In other words, the more you can take the better sport you are. So infact making you a figure of fun is another way of saying, “I find you down-to-earth enough to take the mickey out of.”
    The problem is, of course, that not everyone feels this way and once they get stuck into a theme they often don’t know when to stop.
    I know from living in mainland Europe how shocking the British sense of humour can be to our Euro-cousins… Lets face it – nothing is off limits to the British sense of humour, even the war.
    So to a certain extent just being ribbed about Bush etc you’ve got off lightly.
    I remember my American friends in Brussels hanging their heads with embarrassment when Bush was elected and saying, “Can you imagine what the rest of the world must think of us now?”
    Both of them had lived in many different country outside America for sometime and were able to see the consequences of the election result from an outsiders perspective. I’m sorry but we did all think the Americans were nuts to vote in Bush and we did all think that you had redeemed yourselves by voting in Obama. Inappropriate though it may be, it is the British way to turn everthing into a joke.

  3. Lisa | 17th Oct 10

    Oh my. Cannot believe that father told his child that “all Americans are stupid” and his child called your friend “stupid”. I’ve heard of similar horror stories. I just don’t get it, how people can be so ignorant and hateful, especially in civilized countries that preach tolerance.

  4. Metropolitan Mum | 15th Oct 10

    As long as you don’t hang out vis se bludy Tschermans… (I recently gave up on stressing that I am Austrian. So. You can all call me German now. To a lot of Brits it doesn’t make any difference anyway.)

  5. Antonella | 12th Oct 10

    I’m often blamed by the British English people I know here every time the Italian prime minister, Berlusconi, does one of his stupid “stunts! and I don’t even live there anymore (not have I or my Italian family and friends have ever voted for him). I sometimes think that the British suffer of a superiority complex and don’t really know what happens in the UK. Look what’s happening at the moment and nobody seems to moan much about it….Hugs. A.

  6. Iota | 12th Oct 10

    It’s really unfair, because it doesn’t work the other way at all. In spite of the UK’s very dubious role in the history of America, it seems to be all positive to be a Brit over here. Do they not remember the Boston tea party?

  7. Jennifer Howze | 11th Oct 10

    It’s a huge relief that Obama is president, rather than the party that thought Sarah Palin was an acceptable VP. I’m from Texas, so I get it doubly, since many people also blame me for the very existence of George W. Bush.
    I think as an American, it’s amazing to be able to live outside your own country and understand what it really stands for to people of other nationalities and how its policies are interpreted.
    America has made it easy to hate Americans lately (not that I’m saying we deserve it). I just hope – in the Obama spirit – we continue to be a part of the international community and don’t act like a bunch of cowboys.

  8. Calif Lorna | 10th Oct 10

    My poor husband had to put up with taking the blame for President Bush. We had one really awkward evening at a dinner party when the British guy next to him listed all of Bush’s faults as though my husband was personally responsible. It was awful and we couldn’t wait to leave.
    I can’t even begin to imagine what you’d have to hear if Palin became President.

  9. San Diego Momma | 13th Nov 08

    My brother works in Singapore, and he told me that the image of America (and Americans) would be irrevocably damaged in the eyes of the international community if Barack weren’t elected.
    But he ALSO said that many in the world admire our “American spirit.” So as long as we try real hard to not be stupid anymore, maybe the world will like us again…

  10. treemama | 13th Nov 08

    i have been hearing from people i know all over how relieved they are that Obama is coming in. wouldn’t it be crass of us not to know what our reputation is abroad, but then again isn’t that how reputations are formed.
    i was and am a huge Obama supporter, but hope that people don’t raise their expectations too high, that he can correct all these nightmares overnight.
    and honestly, not to be anti-american, but most americans get on my damn nerves and i’m only in a town of 120 of them.
    guess there’s good and bad seeds everywhere.
    great post.

  11. Jo | 12th Nov 08

    I am Canadian and we have a new respect for the Americans. My 3 year old says “Obama” like it was the new flavor of the week for ice cream! lol

  12. TooManyHats | 12th Nov 08

    Hmmm…very interesting to hear your perspective and more so how the UK is viewing our recent elections.

  13. Tara | 11th Nov 08

    I have to say that makes me so very sad.
    I honestly can’t say I have ever come across it before (is it maybe a southern England thing?). One of my best friends came over from America about 9 years ago and she has nothing but good experiences of being here.
    Sure, you’ll get idots who stereotype anyone within a 5 yard radius, but I can’t believe it’s such a common thing.
    And the fact that you felt it at the school gate I find quite troubling.
    Just wanted to say thank you so much for coming over and supporting Karen on her guest post. It was very much appreciated!

  14. anna colette | 11th Nov 08

    It must be tough. We British are quick to leap down the throats of anyone who casts a racial slur when there is colour involved. However, it still seems to be socially acceptable to limit Americans to negative cultural stereotypes. Although you guys are definitely more in favour as a nation than the French…!

  15. Jo Beaufoix | 11th Nov 08

    I’d love to say you were wrong but in my opinion you’re not. It’s awful and I’m sad you’ve born the brunt. I really do think there is hope. Now we just need to sort out our own government. 🙂

  16. Expat Mum | 10th Nov 08

    I agree with you. I read a lot of UK newspapers on line and am often shocked at the viscious comments against Americans. It also worries me that Americans here have no idea how unpopular they are and how much Bush is ridiculed. Thank god McPalin didn’t get in, if only because the US truly would have been a laughing stock.

  17. 21st Century Mummy | 10th Nov 08

    What an excellent post and very well observed. Prejudices take hold so easily and children can be particularly cruel. Whilst researching the issue of waste, I have come across so many Americans who are pushing the agenda in such directions they are creating some amazing changes. It just goes to show that one president does not make a country. On a lighter note, I’m from Wales and have taken the brunt of many a joke, not helped by the dumb Pot Noodles Advert…thank heavens for positive stereotypes no matter what nationality you are 😀

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